Although amicable divorces are possible, most people who have recently gotten divorced are not on very good terms with their former spouse. Still, given how common co-parenting or shared custody has become, even couples who currently have a very toxic relationship may have to find a way to work together for the sake of their kids.
Regardless of whether or not you tried couples therapy or marriage therapy as part of the process leading up to your divorce, if you struggle to communicate with or relate positively to your ex, co-parenting therapy could be a way for the two of you to re-focus on the kids. Counseling or therapy could help you better manage the stresses involved in shared custody scenarios.
Co-parenting therapy won’t seek to fix everything, just how you parent together
Unlike traditional couples or marriage therapy, the focus during co-parenting therapy isn’t about making the two of you necessarily happy with one another or your relationship so much as it is helping you develop the communication and conflict resolution skills you need to work together as co-parents.
If you disagree about how to handle certain issues that arise, a therapist who specializes in co-parenting counseling can help the two of you address your disagreements and look for solutions that will work for your family. Additionally, a co-parenting therapist can help you develop your conflict resolution skills and help you establish a healthier way to communicate with one another.
Working together in therapy can help the two of you adjust your attitudes toward one another in a way that will benefit both of you as you try to parent together and your children as they adjust to life after the divorce.